Living My Life in Quarters

Fourth quarter 2019 is the earliest date I can undertake a specific task. Seems so far off but in reality it will be here in no time since time flies.  But I do need distractions so the other night I decided I was going to map out the most important task I want to accomplish in the meantime and I hit upon the idea of mapping  it out in quarters.

Three-month planning of my time, I think, is less anxiety inducing, more big-picture thinking, which I try to utilize in my life but am not always successful at doing, and more long-game strategy.  To ensure this works I’m imposing hard deadlines, so whatever I have at the end of the quarter will be it. I know me and if I don’t impose that rule then my particular to-do will go on and on because I can be like that. I keeps it real with myself. And yes I meant to type ‘keeps.’

So starting this quarter, 3Q 2018, July, August, and September I’ve committed to:

  1. Completing my long overdue writing project and
  2. Getting pricing from an editor I want to work with.

Seems simple but did I mention I can be the Queen of Procrastination? Well I am. Just as I sit down to write suddenly anything and everything becomes more important and must be completed before the creative juices can properly flow.

Procrastination Muse Writing

Add to my predilection, yes I do enjoy doing nothing I really do, for procrastination my long overdue writing project has served as a sort of pacifier. It has allowed me to escape from life’s disturbances, serving as a storm cellar door that transports me to safety. But it’s time to let the project go and share it with the world, which will allow other projects to be unleashed, so I gotta stick a fork in this one.

I am off to start living my life in quarters. I am wishing myself peace, persistence, luck, and a whole bunch of stick-to-it-ness.

Quarterly calendar


FB post from Roland Martin, Reporter, TV Host, and Political Analyst

As I ride this train to NYC for a meeting with a media company CEO, a few thoughts come to mind that I think can help many of you who are at a crossroads.

Yesterday during our Q&A, @LupeFiasco said we can’t determine success to be based on who is a billionaire or millionaire.

One of the things that I’ve always found to be interesting is that too many of us are impressed by the largeness of the company on our business card as opposed to what we are doing. I said the same to @NABJ when I received my Journalist of the Year Award.

What we have to always focus on is what makes YOU happy. What brings YOU joy. How are YOU making a difference.

When I worked for @CNN for six years, I never thought it was better than @tvonetv @WVON1690 or @TJMShow. All gave me joy in their own separate way. When I was managing editor of the Dallas Weekly, Houston Defender and Chicago Defender, I never felt inadequate because it wasn’t the Dallas Morning News, Houston Chronicle or Chicago Sun-Times and Chicago Tribune. I LOVED what I was doing and who I was SERVING.

And this is what we should always focus on. In fact, what we are paid doesn’t bring us joy. You can make $100,000 on a job and be miserable!

My advice to any of you: focus on what you are doing. Focus on the work and the value it brings. And if that means walking away from what someone else thinks is the be all to end all, then that’s what you must do.

Being unfilled is to be miserable. It means your talents are going to waste and you are depriving yourself of joy. I don’t know who this was meant to help. I just hope it has. #rollinwithroland #rolandmartinunfiltered

Figure It Out aka Start

Stop delaying, procrastinating, and putting off your dreams. Figure it out and realize what you think is your dream today may and will probably change and that’s okay. Decide on something and get to doing it. Whatever it is. Life is so fleeting.

I’ve always thought it would be the worst thing to have not followed my dreams and succeeded. I now believe the worst thing is to never attempt. Who cares if you fail. Yeah I said that: who cares if you fail. At least you will have tried. And through trying you figure out what it is you want to do.  And again realize that thing, might not be what you will do for the rest of your life. Who says we have to just master one thing?

People always say: Jack of all trades and master of none like it’s some horrible thing. It is not. Being a jack of all trades is a fun way to move through this thing called life. Try a little of this and a lot of that. Or don’t but do something. Become a master of something or don’t. Just do something. Stop waiting for a that big moment of sudden revelation – it’s not coming. You have to  excavate through all the muck to get to you.

One of my favorite quotes is from Nikki Giovanni:  I really don’t think life is about the I-could-have-beens. Life is only about the I-tried-to-do. I don’t mind the failure but I can’t imagine that I’d forgive myself if I didn’t try.






Expect To Receive

I provide daycare in my home and am constantly amazed at toddlers and pre-schoolers who will demand some of whatever you are eating. Even if they just finished eating a full meal that they didn’t offer you one morsel of.

They walk right over, stare at your food, look at you, and then open their mouths. They have no expectations that they won’t receive what they desire. All kids do this. ALL.KIDS.

So the next time you desire or need something act like a kid and walk right up to what you want, check it out, open yourself up, expect to receive it, and then receive.

Expect to receive.

Portion Control

It’s time to clean my palate, refresh my nose, and wash the madness out of my hair. Yes, yes, yall. I’ve been decreasing my intake of political news. I’m a MSNBC addict. Yes I am. But it is better for me to limit my intake. Portion control is the solution.

The daily barrage of news and breaking events spewing from my HD television screen is polluting my spirit and outlook. I had to put a stop to it. I had to also stop sharing the madness via my Facebook posts. Portion control works both ways: intake and sharing.

Sometimes when you’re in the thick of something you don’t see the full buffet of madness you are taking in. So I’m cleaning out my DVR, watching some new shows, going to the movies, trying ne restaurants, and most important finishing my long-way-long-overdue novel.

I’m sleeping better and feeling lighter. Yes, yes yall portion control is the way to go.